Today one of my coworkers got yelled at by one of the higher ups at our company today. It was over something extremely trivial that was a result of a decision made by the co-owners of the company. (We were told to force all company computers backgrounds to display the company logo, dude got pissed and started chewing out the nearest IT guy he could find.)
She simply sat their and calmly delt with it without getting visibly angry. This is almost impossible for me to do, if I screwed up I'm fine with getting chewed out, but if I was doing my job and I get yelled at, I can barely contain my anger. Esspecially if I was putting in serious overtime.
Is this something I'll just learn how to do? Am I just not cut out for office work and the unfortunate realities of white collar work?
Actually grew to respect the dude after a while
I had one time where I made the Chief Master Sgt (the highest enlisted member of our squadron) mad and ended up spending the next few hours getting my ass chewed out by my entire chain of command (damn near had a nervous breakdown, and nobody in my chain cared).
So glad I'm getting out soon.
He immediately calmed down, and apologized. He also never seemed to hold it against me. I ended up leaving that company for unrelated reasons (lol retail).
The job I went to after that also had a shitty boss, and after telling one of the supervisors twice that his behavior was unacceptable, I left.
I'm much happier where I am now, which is also in IT. Find something better.
Thank god when my boss left, that guy left too so I reported directly to my boss's boss. He's a great dude and we get along swimmingly.
Yep. Mine has a completely toxic environment as well, in which our boss yells constantly, berates other people and is basically a dictator.
I've never been yelled at at work. This is not normal. It sounds like a toxic work environment. Look for a new job.
Pretty much why I have been searching for a new job while I lazy around doing the minimum around here, used to push myself to do things great and whatnot, even with my 12 hour shift schedule, but getting that kind of treatment? Nah, not gonna do it. I sent some CV's over the week and here's hoping one sticks.
He's not my boss (thank God). He is in charge of the division that was setup when my company acquired 50% of his.
I have about 20 or so people reporting to me.. I have never yelled at any of them.. in no way will that get that person or the rest of your team to work hard for you.
I am sorry you have a boss who has no idea how to communicate to their staff.. thats horrible.
Other employees and I have noticed his attitude is affecting the whole division to varying extents. So I really hope he either gets his shit together or he somehow gets canned.
Oh, I've told other employees about it. Unfortunately this guy is in a near untouchable position and the owners can't just kick him to the curb.
If your boss is yelling at you doing your job correctly that's fucked. I'd probably spread rumors / have him destroyed for defying HIS bosses.
On that end, I just didn't reply and spoke to my boss directly about the situation.
My army experience actually made me worse for it. If it's not jail or the military and you yell at me you might catch hands, or at very least get a verbal beat down. Fuck a job where some guy can just let his stress out on me. At least in the military it served a wierd purpose.
This isn't a problem if you were in the military. Ain't nothing a potential boss could say to me that I haven't heard from a Chief Petty Officer.
Whenever you give him a reasonable response he gets even more pissed an walks off.
I just ask them calmly to explain to me how them yelling at me is going to resolve the issue we're having.
Sometimes I wish I majored in psychology instead. There's gotta be something that happened to him to make him that quick to anger.
You would need to produce a colossal fuck up that threatens someone's health or something to excuse that.
A sizable portion of upper management have psychopathic personality types though (as those are naturally attracted to these positions) so I'm sure it still happens often enough.
Getting yelled at sucks but IT is largely a service based role within a company. In service the customer tends to be always right and feel like they have the right to mistreat you.
My first IT job I made the mistake of trying to correct a guy about a name change in our system which impacted response time for account creation. I should have just shut my trap and not tried to correct the man because I was treated to a very long yelling session.
Internalize stuff and problem solve the situation. Is it with you engaging the person and escalating things or do you let them vent and wait for them to get vile and violent then report them to HR. One benefit of that first job I had was every call is recorded. So I didn't get in trouble when he tried to throw me under the bus but I was told next time just to let it go.