Like so many people in today’s day and age, I’m on a few dating apps. Whether you are looking for a time-waster, friend-maker, fun-finder or love-matcher, there is an app to suit your needs. Apps like these give us opportunities to construct an identity as we see fit. I see sexy profiles, funny profiles, honest profiles and, yes, some sad profiles. My question to you GAF, is what role do video games play in your dating app activities (conversations, profiles, pictures, dates, successes, etc.)?
My personal favorite app for dating is Scruff, geared towards gay men. As you can see below, it actually has a spot for your XBOX and PSN IDs.
Since gaming is a large part of my identity I feature it prominently on my profile, both in what I’m looking for and in my description. I like to put what I’m currently playing and have engaged in some great conversations because of it.
Biggest success story: I reached out to someone who had “Switch” in their Grindr profile and the next day actually met up with him to attend the Switch and Play preview event. It was entirely platonic, but it was nice not having to go alone. This was an experience made possible because of Grindr.
Some questions to get discussion started:
Do you use dating apps?
Does your app have a designated place for video game ids?
How do you incorporate video games into your profile, if at all?
Have you ever had “success” (whatever that looks like for you) because of a mention of video games in your dating profile/conversations? What was it?
gamergate moved gaming acceptance back decades in the public consciousness
Sometimes I use Scruff and Growlr, but not that often, I barely have time hahaha
And I've met good people that introduce themselves as gamer fans too, good friends (yeah, no chemistry for dating haha)
Of course I have received messages like "oh you play games? aren't those for children? ' or something.. I just ignore those messages
I just want to play Kirby & the Amazing Mirror with a girl though, is that so hard to ask??
I think that's something I often forget... others feel free to chime in but I think amongst men (and gay men) gaming is a lot more common and something to bond over.
No. Not out of shame, I just find gaming rare among the demographic of women I pursue. I also tend to put more social hobbies over solitary ones. So reading, TV, gaming are not really mentioned much.
I love starting a conversation with "What games are you playing" or something. Or being coy and asking "what are you into?" getting some vulgar response and replying "nooo I meant in terms of video games."
Gosh I'm annoying.
I mean if it's a huge turnoff to them then there's a 100% chance it's not going to work out anyway
Not a chance.
Despite gaming being a huge part of my life, it's not my entire existence nor do I think it needs advertising. For many suitable guys/girls (depending on your preference) its just a huge turn off.
To answer op though, I only use tinder and no I don't have gaming anywhere on there.
Remember: if you want to get lucky you have to sell yourself and games sadly are a big no-no for most guys.
I don't usually messaging girls who mention gaming because I assume they have higher than average messages even by online dating standards. But maybe they want to filter out bozos like me idk
Beats me touting Pale Moon as an alternative to firefox anyway.
Pretty much this.
Just put it out there and make your hobbies apparent right away. If someone considers you unworthy of a date solely due to the fact that you play games, that person isn't worth your time.
Mentioned it in my interests to my wife on our first date 6 1/2 years ago. When gaming was no where near as ubiquitous as it is today. She mentioned she played as a kid, and we struck a conversation over it. If anything it gave us one more topic to speak about, which in turn allowed me a better chance with her.
I mean come on, nowadays even MORE people play games hours a day and gaming is more socially accepted then ever. Back in 2010 it was far less common and accepted.