I know there's a few open / closeted TransGAFfers out there, I think it's about time we got our own discussion thread; GayGAF has a good thing going with their own megathread.
We all have varying degrees of experience and knowledge, I think we need a thread to maintain a solid discussion, as opposed to talking in trans specific threads that just get locked anyway.
This thread is open to non-TG GAF, as long as you keep it civil you can pretty much ask anything.
Producers' notes on the making of MTV's 'True Life: I'm Changing Sex'
Developing a Female Voice - An incredibly detailed vlog of how to develop a female voice. Must see for any MTF, with practice, you can achieve the kind of results you hear upon opening this video.
TrannyGirl15 - Very, very long vlog. She goes from the moment she was made the decision up until some recent point. This includes HRT, post-op, and female feminization surgery.
IceColdBath - Another long vlog that I found. I believe this was the first I viewed. Introduction from Ashley's beginnings to sometime four months ago.
To get the ball rolling, I'd like to quote an account from a home hospice nurse that I absolutely adore.
'I am a genetically born female from a small rural community in Montana. I am also a Home Health/Hospice Nurse. 3 years ago, I was assigned a new patient. Her name was the same as mine, Mishelle-just spelled different. She was being put on our service for a brief course of IV antibiotics for a respiratory infection. She had the underlying disease process of COPD, or emphysema. What started out as a 7 day course, turned into a 4 1/2 month journey that touched my life and continues to touch my life to this day!
Before going to Mishelle's home, I found out that she was blind. She had been blind since the age of 18 months old. No shadow's, no nothing! I also found out that she was transgendered. I will admit my ignorance. I had absolutely no idea what that term meant. My only reference point was some 20 years prior, I went to a Drag Queen show, in Portland Oregon, with my mother! So-you can imagine what I pictured in my brain! Not the case!
I was uncomfortable around Mishelle for about 3 weeks. I was curious and wanted to ask her questions, but did not want to offend her. She must have sensed my curiosity as she broke the ice and told me, "If you have the courage to ask, I have the courage to answer." That opened the door. I was the perfect student. She gave me books to read and videos to watch. With each "assignment", I asked more and more questions and enhanced my knowledge. She then gave me her journal to read, that was typed on an old fashioned type writer (remember-she was blind). It was her deepest, darkest feelings that were written over a 3 year time period, during her transition back in 1988, in a town of about 7000 people! After I read her journal, I got it! How could I have been so blind? I understood!!! I understood that being a transsexual was not a choice, it was not a lifestyle, it came from within! I realized that it was not about "the dress", it was not about "the look." What helped me with this concept was that she was blind. She never once saw what a female vs. a male looked like. She could not look at me and say, "that is what I want to look like. That is how I want to dress."
After this, all I wanted to do was to reach out and be her friend. She lived a very lonely existence. I started to cross boundaries with her, big time, which I have never done in 20 years of being a nurse. After about 2 months of knowing her, I went to a spiritual retreat. It was the strangest thing, but when I came home, I knew why I was in her life. I knew that she was going to die and that it was my role to help her through the emotional process, but also to show her unconditional love and acceptance before she died!
I started to visit her on my off time. I introduced my husband and 2 boys (who were 9 and 12 at the time) to her. We took her under our wing and made her part of our family. Mishelle and my 9 year old son, became very close. She always thought that I was put into her life so that she could educate me and then I could in turn educate others, which I have been doing and will continue to do my part.
Mishelle did die. She died comfortably,and at peace. She knew that she was loved unconditionally and 100% accepted by myself and my family. The most beautiful part---she died with me holding her.
It was a beautiful experience that I will never forget! Not only will I not forget it, my 2 boys and husband will not forget it! So, those of you who feel nobody cares, remember this story. I care and I will do my part to open some hearts and some minds!'
Unless correct context is used these words are verboten! : Tranny, shemale, and most grievously, it. Uttering it will inflict the banhammer with swift justice!
Q: Why are you doing this?
A: There is no simple answer for this, a great start on understanding is the piece I have quoted above. A great deal of further information is contained within this thread and posted from the heart by your fellow Transgaffers. If I could summarize in a few words something that applies to me, 'I have always felt wrong, this feels right.'
Q: Can I see before pics?
A: It's not polite to ask. Some TG's feel proud of how far they're come and are OK with showing before pics (even then, sparingly) but really it's oftentimes just a part of ourselves we don't like to show or embellish on.